What does it mean to be authentic? To live authentically? To embrace and exude authenticity as a person, a leader, a woman?
Genuine…legitimate…credible?
Social media are overflowing with “authenticity” hashtags. It’s a higher calling. For me, it’s just being myself, unfiltered and unconcerned about others’ opinions and expectations of me. But social media belies the whole premise of authenticity, doesn’t it? With highly curated, filtered, and staged content designed to reflect trends and push a brand/narrative/story/message, the social statements we’re making/posting are more packaged than authentic.
So, this is me in translation, making Authenticity Adjustments to be fully genuine, legitimate, and credible. Back in the day, I called this act of revealing one’s genuine self “Personality Leakage,” but now here we go, jumping on the “#authenticity” train.
Social Statement, Pre-Translation: “I practice Gratitude daily, starting every morning with Meditation, and embracing every day with Grace and a Big Smile.”
Authenticity Adjustment: 89.7% of the time now my big smile really is genuine. I’m happy and thankful as hell for everything. The other 10.3% I’m actually thinking “What the f*ck!,” “Bitch, please,” or “F*ck off”/”Go f*ck yourself”. I have a swearing problem IRL.
Social Statement, Pre-Translation: “I am an ageless goddess, living fully in the moment, practicing self-care of the temple that is my body and mind.”
Authenticity Adjustment: I am losing my mind. Who the hell still has searing hot flashes and gross-ass night sweats every goddamn day and night when they’re pushing 61 damn years old? When’s the last time I slept at night? I think I’m getting Alzheimer’s. Did my grown son just tell me that watching me go from sitting to standing is like watching Transformers? F*ck off, dear (Big Smile). Did I just pee when I coughed/sneezed/laughed? Yeeaahhh, that queef was an actual fart. Sorry. (Big Smile with Gratitude)
Social Statement, Pre-Translation: “The book Eat, Pray, Love was transformational, and influenced my solo trip around the world.”
Authenticity Adjustment: Uh, yeah, not really, no. When I need to “find myself” I tend to lean toward the more accessible, expedient, and well practiced Drink, Swear, Screw approach. Then I Eat.
Social Statement, Pre-Translation: “I lead a fit, healthy, active, positive lifestyle of discovery, wonder, and lifelong learning.”
Authenticity Adjustment: What the actual f*ck?
You’re quite a woman, and I’m proud to know you. Continue to be “a hot mess”! It’s fabulous!!
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Thank you for being a role model for courage and following passions!
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Almost a relief to read blogs like yours 🙂
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😀 Thank you for the encouragement!
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Kudos Natalie. It seems as though you’re enjoying finding and expressing more aspects of yourself. Thanks for the follow. blessings, Brad
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Thank you for the follow and encouragement, Brad.
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You are most welcome Natalie. Your blog and instagram posts are bursting with life and joy. Thanks for sharing your zest!
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Now THAT’S a refreshing change! 😉
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🙊 Maybe a bit too much personality leakage…😉
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Not at all. 🙂
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I love this! Raw, funny, and enjoyable.
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Thank you, Natali! 💜
A little Aquarian personality leakage…
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